If you’ve been around awhile you may know these things about me. If you’re new, I’ll let you in on a couple of facts. First, GIFTS stress me out. I love Thanksgiving way more than Christmas & the idea of GIFTS (I use all caps to emphasize how much anxiety that word holds for me) is more than I can handle most years. Ermm, every year. Two, I am a recipe hoarder. I make things, I even shoot them, then… I let them go to the far corners of my blog to (sometimes) resurface a year or two later. This Golden Turmeric Milk is one of those recipes. Sorry ’bout that.
Maybe it’s the year coming to a close. Maybe it’s the whole GIFT anxiety I have. But this year, I started thinking about gifts I could give myself. And they weren’t bought on Black Friday, friend. Nope. This is something I’ve been working on giving myself for awhile. Some of them have been hard fought for, some are coming more easy these days.
Gifts to Give Yourself + Golden Turmeric Milk
The Gift of Grace – What is this pressure we put on ourselves as women? Once we become mother’s, whew, it’s even worse. I have to admit, my time as a mother has taught me a few things. First being, that you will absolutely parent your first child & your fourth child completely differently & you will have next to no guilt about this fact. Which is good. There are plenty of other things to feel guilty over (fist bump). The next thing you realize as a well seasoned mother is that any incident, a tiny snippet taken out of context & plucked out of your day, when looked at & examined by the outside world, all on it’s own could seem incriminatory. But in the scheme of your life & your kid’s lives, it’s really NBD (that’s the kid’s lingo for ‘no big deal’ these days). So… Give yourself the gift of grace. You deserve it. Just the fact that you care so darn much, yet feel so much guilt about things show just how much grace you deserve.
The past few weeks I have had no guilt about saying I have been dialing things in. I’m tired. I bought breakfast cereal. I made bacon & eggs for dinner (not a vegetable in sight). Today I ordered my groceries online. Do what you need to do & know you’re doing your best. Your best will look like different things at different points in your life. Go with it.
The Gift of Failure – This is probably my FAVORITE gift I’ve been thinking about this year. In fact, it’s been a reoccurring conversation in my daily life which is why I knew I needed to talk more about it. I keep having these conversation with women who are holding themselves back (self included) from doing what they want because of this question – What if I fail? You guys, I’m not going to reply to this with an ‘Oh but my darling, what if you fly, response’ because here’s the truth – FAILURE is success in a poorly wrapped package. Turning away from something, shifting gears, reexamining your goals, forging a new path, saying NO, saying YES, changing your life – deciding to do something differently than what you originally set out to do – this is not failure. FAILURE is continuing to do something that makes you miserable even though you so desperately want to stop. Recognizing something isn’t working & walking away with your best interests in mind will always be marked as success in my book.
The Gift of a Hobby – Ok, if you have multiple children like me or even young children or heck, even an enthusiastic dog, you may be laughing your tail off right now. But hear me out. You need a hobby. I love to sing & since my oldest plays guitar now, we have a daily routine of him picking up his guitar to play for me. He strums, I sing. It’s fun & honestly nicer than doing dishes or complaining about people not picking up their shoes. Then I asked him to teach me a few chords so I could play for myself the songs he didn’t really want to learn just to appease mom. Then… I wondered about my old violin I had stopped playing over 15 years ago. Is music like riding a bike? What would I remember? I broke it out & surprised myself at how much I actually could recall. The next day I headed to the violin shop to have some maintenance done & get myself a new bow. I’m pretty terrible. But that’s ok. There are so many tutorials on YouTube (this guy is my favorite) that I can practice when I want. And there’s something charming about not being very good at my hobby. I don’t aspire to play clubs or ever play in public for that matter. It’s not for my kids. It’s not for anyone other than myself. And it’s a heck of a lot more fun that scrolling Facebook. Admit it. You spend way too much time doing that. Get yerself a hobby. Whether is running, writing, music, painting or sewing, find something you can do that’s just for you.
And now… on to our recipe:
- 1 cup Milk (dairy or non)
- ½ teaspoon ground Ginger
- ½ teaspoon ground Turmeric
- ¼ teaspoon Cinnamon
- Pinch of Cardamom
- Honey to taste
- In a small sauce pan, combine all ingredients except honey & stir until just warmed.
- Sweeten to taste with honey
- Remove from heat & strain into a mug.
- Top with a sprinkle of cinnamon.
And don’t forget to leave a comment to let me know what you’ve given yourself this year. It might be wrapped under the tree or it might be wrapped up in your heart. Either way, I’d love to see a comment on the blog post telling me what you’re giving yourself!